In Altorshowa and Xegotin, it is customary to renew the turf on graves on the morning of the second Monday after Easter; and on the afternoon of that day the young people assemble and twist green garlands: youths, each one with another, and maidens also, in the same manner, then enter into this alliance, whilst kissing through their garlands, which are afterwards exchanged. This first bond, howeverthey being yet quite young lasts only till the succeeding year: it is not yet “brotherhood and sisterhood” for ever; only an initiatory preparation. On the following Easter
Monday, by which time they have become better acquainted, they cither confirm their original choice or make a new election.
This union concerns only the persons by whom it is formed; marriage is, on the contrary, regarded as an affair of interest to the whole family. The fathers of two houses meet, and settle the matter together; exchanging presents, which sometimes amount to a considerable value.
Thus, by a sort of purchase, is so useful a member of a household as a grown-up maiden surrendered by one to another. Her brother delivers the bride to the solemn procession which comes to conduct her to her new abode; and there she is received by the sister, or sister-in-law, of the bridegroom. She dresses a child, touches with a distaff the Avails which are so often to see her occupied with this implement, and carries bread, wine, and water, up to the table which it will become her daily duty to prepare: with these symbolical ceremonies she enters into the new community.
Her mouth is sealed by a piece of sugar, to denote that she should utter little, and only what is good. As yet she is only a stranger; and for a whole year she is termed the “betrothed.” By an assumption of continued bashfulness, prescribed by custom, she keeps apart, even from her husband. In the presence of others she scarcely converses with him; much less would a playful phrase be permitted from her lips. It is only when years have passed, and she has become the mother of grown-up children, that she in reality finds herself on an equality with other members of the family into which she has entered.
Considering the strong feeling of blood-relationship that prevails with the Servians, it is remarkable that the revenge of murder is unknown; especially as an indication of this feeling, common to nations of similar condition, is a prominent characteristic of the people of Montenegro, the race most nearly related to them. This may arise from the fact that powerful families, or races, are not found in Servia : they could not acquire, nor afterwards maintain their ascendancy, in consequence of the violent character of the national subjection.
The union of families into a community is a custom more of a political nature, than one founded on common origin or lineage. By the Turks, who considered murder rather a loss than a crime, the village in which a murder had been perpetrated was condemned to pay, as compensation, the price of blood, called Kriminci.nThis was fixed at1000 piastres.